The illusion of friendship
In the choice of friends, the illusion of free will is most strong. Some we seem to reject and others to claim, and the impression is built up in our minds that these men and women are the ones we have picked out from the vast unfriendly world. But in fact we neither select them, nor are selected by them. We are thrown in with them and, accommodating ourselves to our condition, choose what has already been allotted to us.